| Location | Saltburn |
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| Date of Birth | 10/2006 |
| Date of Death | 10/2006 |
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Darcy Barnett
Born sleeping at 19 weeks on the 10th October 2006
This was our first baby, we were so happy to fall pregnant.
The pregnancy was a little eventful as I suffered with a few bleeds which we went mad with worry
every time it happened but luckly everything always showed up fine. We started to buy clothes and
nappies so that we would be prepared and my mam and dad even bought a buggy.
Unfortunately one night I felt this gush of water which woke me up so we phoned the hospital
straight away and we were told to go in asap, I was only just gone 18 weeks.
We were so worried but with it being our first pregnancy we didnt know what was going on but deep
down we knew it was my waters going.
We got scanned and thankfully the baby was fine but it was my waters so things didnt look good, the
plan was to keep me in hospital and monitor me to see if the fluid would replace itself. We knew it
was very doubtful but we had to give it a try. We were so upset that there was quite a big chance we
would lose our baby, we stayed in hospital for 5 days hoping and praying that the fluid would
replenish itself.
We were scanned after the 5 days and her little heart was still going but her foot was in my cervix
and she was bringing herself into the world. There was nothing no one could do we just had to wait
for her to arrive but we knew that at her gestation she wouldnt survive. We were absolutely gutted,
we knew that our chances were low but there was still a little bit of hope, this was now shattered.
I was sent onto delivery suite as we knew she was going to come soon.
At 10:50am on tuesday 10th October our little girl was born sleeping, unfortunately because of the
situation I couldnt bring myself to see her and I regret this so much! My first baby girl and I
couldnt do it, I wish I could turn the clock back so I could have give her the hug she deserved.
Going home that day with an empty tummy and no baby to take home was the worst feeling I had ever
felt.
We had a postmortem done as we didnt know if the problem had been with me or with her. The results
came back that she was perfect and had nothing wrong with her at all, therefore the problem was with
me. I was diagnosed with an incompetent cervix, which means my cervix opens early and therefore
deliver early.
I miss my little girl so much and I just wish I could have give her that hug!
Unfortunately she is now playing in heaven with her two brothers - Tico Barnett (born 13th september
2007 - lived for 31 days) and Dexter Barnett (born 22nd March 2008 - lived for 38 minutes) who also
didnt make it due to my problems.
Me and Daddy miss you all very much and love you all so much.
Sleep tight my sunshines xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
If you need to talk...
I was surprised to see your page, my daughter was called Darcy and there are so many similarities in our stories,PROM, even the foot in the cervix (ouch that hurts!). I just wanted to say that I am thinking of you and your husband and the rest of the family. If you want to talk about anything with someone who really understands your pain - then visit my daughter's site and get in touch. God Bless all of you - life can be really awful sometimes but I'm sure the good times, filled with happiness and joy are just around the corner. Love Martina x
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ALL MY LOVE DARCY XXXXXXXXX
my heart goes out to you and really really sorry for your loss...i can't imagine what you're going through...i too lost two babies due to incompetent cervix and i'm having a hard time dealing with it and often times feel so sorry for myself and i can't imagine loosing 3 beautiful babies...i wish there are words that i can say to ease the pain but i know that's not possible so i just want to send you a big cyberhug and hope somehow it could help in any way
HUGS
liriam
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my heart goes out to you on the loss of not one but three beautiful little angels. May they all be playing together in heaven and looking down on their wonderful mummy and daddy.
Take care and God Bless you all, love Carol
Words are gone again as I think of you both and of your beautiful three angels. I know they're playing together and watching down on you both with love.
I'm so so sorry for your losses....
With love as always
Charlie, Paul, Jenson and Amelia x x x
I have just read your story, its heart breaking to lose one baby as i know i lost my little angel stillborn at 42 weeks, for you to lose 3 is just unfair!!! My heart goes out to you and your partner, My thoughts are with you, Just take each day as it comes love. Take care x x xx
lisa you have been so brave, you must be heartbroken to lose your babies, i hope that now you have answers as to why your angels were born so early you have the strength to become a mummy again. my thoughts are with you xx
thinking of you
Hi just want to say after reading you tribute my heart goes out to you, after losing my son I have always had so many thoughts of regrets, what if i did this and what if I said that..... I know you wish that you held your daughter back then but you did what was right at the time and what ever you felt at the time WAS RIGHT no body can tell you how to think and feel it is only you who can decide that.
I was told that I was in denial all through my son illness and that I wasn't preparing myself fully, that I was going to have a massive collapse !! this all never happened I knew what was happening and prepared in my own way all I will say is that you did what you felt was best god bless you I will be thinking of you.
I'm so sorry for your loss, my heart sank as I read about what had happened. I wish you all the luck in the world in one day having a baby which will grow up to be beautiful. xxxxxx
An Angel Never Dies
Don’t let them say I wasn’t born, that something stopped my heart
I felt each tender squeeze you gave; I’ve loved you from the start.
Although my body you can’t hold, it doesn’t mean I’m gone
This world was worthy not of me, God chose that I move on.
I know the pain that drowns your soul; what you are forced to face
You have my word I’ll fill your arms, someday we will embrace.
You’ll hear that it was meant to be – God doesn’t make mistakes
But that won’t soften your worst blow, or make your heart not ache.
I’m watching over all you do, another babe you may bear
Believe me when I say to you, that I’ll be always there.
There’ll come a time I promise you, when you will hold my hand
Stroke my hair and kiss my face, and then you’ll understand.
Although I’ve never breathed your air, or gazed into your eyes
That doesn’t mean I never “was” – an angel never dies.
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